Vagina dialogues

Matt Kailey, whose blog Tranifesto just won the TransGuys Community Award for Best Blog 2010,is completely right in his article here when he pulls Ke$ha to task for her “I just can’t date a dude with a vag” line in her latest song ‘Grow a Pear’. I posted on my Facebook about this the other day.

“I am PROUD to be a dude with a vag and my own wee cock lol!!! Like every single human being has genitalia that are diverse and different – everyone should proudly celebrate that because, as everyone knows, children and young people can grow… up with immense shame around their bodies and particularly genitals – its by no means just a trans issue!! Young guys born with penises face immense pressure to be hung like the porn stars they see online when they are curiously exploring their sexuality. Young girls too are now at an early age deciding their breasts, their labia, their everything, when they compare themselves with the airbrushed standardised corporate stamp that defines ‘beauty’. Most of us have had issues with this one way or another in our lives, as kids, teens and adults. The revolution many of us want to build in this world is just as much about fighting this all-pervasive body fascism as it is about jobs, ending war and racism and the rest of it.”

B00mBoomboy sums it up brilliantly in his parting shot at the end of his YouTube vid (below) “I’m a man and I love my cunt!” Good for you dude … more of us should try to be loud and proud of our bodies, even if THAT is a personal and intensely challenging thing to try and say when you are massively struggling with dysphoric thoughts yourself. I know that deeply from my own journey or surviving these issues so far. If we can’t love our selves as fully as we possibly can then it gets hard to fight back when we need to, in ways that empower us and don’t add to our battered self-esteem.

Don't Worry, Ke$ha. I Don't Want to Date You, Either And neither do any of the trans guys I know. In fact, for someone who tries soooo hard to be hip, you are making yourself less cool every day. I first wrote about Ke$ha’s questionable notion of the transgender community when I was writing for At that time, in an interview with The Advocate, Ms. Dollar Sign claimed to be a “huge fan” of the “transgender community” (you’d have to be a pretty huge fan if you liked the whole community – … Read More

via Matt Kailey


About Sam Feeney

I am a counsellor, trainer and LGBTQI community activist. I write about my journey through life as a someone who lives and breathes gender and sexual difference and who cares passionately about creating powerful and sustainable radical social and political change.
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